How to make her squirt? Understanding squirting without false promises
It is a common question, but a particular response cannot be demanded from someone else’s body. Squirting is a release of fluid from the urethra that some women experience during arousal or around orgasm. It does not happen to everyone, does not show how much pleasure someone feels and is not necessary for a satisfying sex life. This guide explains the meaning, distinctions and common myths, with communication and freedom of choice at its centre.
What is squirting, and where does the fluid come from?
The word “squirt” suggests a jet of fluid. The fluid leaves through the urethra, the channel that also carries urine, rather than the vagina. Studies using ultrasound and fluid analysis point to a predominantly bladder origin: the fluid is mainly urine, sometimes with a contribution from the paraurethral glands, also known as Skene’s glands. It is therefore inaccurate to describe it as fluid produced entirely by these glands.
Available research includes studies with small groups: one study published in 2015 involved seven women and a 2022 investigation involved five. These observations help explain the fluid’s origin, but cannot predict every individual’s response or establish a procedure that works for everyone. The scientific sources are linked at the end of the article.
Are squirting, female ejaculation and orgasm the same thing?
No. Research distinguishes female ejaculation from squirting: female ejaculation generally refers to a small amount of fluid secreted by the paraurethral glands, while squirting involves a larger volume, mainly originating in the bladder. Both can occur together. Vaginal lubrication is another process and should not be used as a synonym. Orgasm is also distinct: it can occur without fluid release, and squirting does not necessarily coincide with orgasm.
Can every woman squirt?
There is no basis for saying that everyone can or should. Not squirting does not mean that someone is insufficiently relaxed, unfamiliar with their body or unable to trust their partner. It is not a test of openness or a skill needed to become “complete”. Not squirting says nothing about the quality of pleasure or the value of intimacy. Comparing personal experiences with images or other people’s accounts can create unhelpful expectations; acknowledging individual variation is more respectful.
The “G-spot” and promises of a universal technique
Describing an identical spot, always located at the same distance and guaranteed to produce squirting, oversimplifies a subject that remains debated. ISSM itself notes that the existence of the “G-spot” as a defined structure is disputed. Sensitivity and preferences cannot be inferred from a single diagram that supposedly applies to everyone. We therefore do not treat a particular pressure, penetrative intercourse or a device as a guarantee of an outcome. A person’s comfort matters more than trying to reproduce a response.
Communication, consent and when to seek healthcare advice
Conversation can help when curiosity is shared, without turning it into an assignment. Asking what someone wants and dislikes is more useful than watching their body for proof of “success”. Consent remains freely given and can change: someone may not wish to explore the subject, or may change their mind. Pain, burning, worrying urinary leakage or other unusual symptoms should be discussed with a healthcare professional rather than interpreted on your own as squirting. Distinguishing physiological responses from incontinence calls for assessment when there is distress.
Yoni massage also needs to be understood within clear boundaries: in our approach it is a wellbeing experience, not therapy or a sexual service, and it does not promise squirting or orgasms. Curiosity can be an opportunity to understand your body better without having to achieve a particular response. The related articles below explore pleasure, lubrication and awareness from different perspectives.
